Just about everyone I can think of at one point or another, whether it is from elementary school or high school, has experienced some kind of bullying. I am going to hope that whatever post secondary institution that these people attend if they choose to go is past the childish idea of bullying. However, what kind of effects are present for some people once the bullying is over? Some people just assume that it is a phase in life that passes, but for some others, there are some insane repercussions that come after a few years.
Studies suggest that part of the population that is bullied is more likely to experience depression when they reach adulthood at an age as young as eighteen.
I can understand why something like bullying can make someone almost twice as likely to become depressed. I can relate to this topic because I was bullied myself when I was growing up in elementary school. I understand that it is extremely threatening when you are in the second or third grade, only to have a sixth grader threaten to beat you up if you told anyone what was going on. Unfortunately for that bully, I had friends in the eighth grade that took care of him for me. Once the situation blew up, the principal, teachers and my parents especially came out and told the rest of the school that they should report cases like these to them instead of taking the route I chose. Personally, my situation cleared up rather fast with my method, but that is besides the point.
Even though I took a rather unorthodox method to satisfy my situation, there is still an alarming difference between what I did and what those experiencing depression are doing/did during the time. I did something about it. A lot of these depression cases revealed by the studies also show that the depressed kids who were bullied were also the ones who either did not feel the need to tell anyone, or were too afraid of the bully’s threats to. This goes hand in hand with the feeling of being helpless and having no where to turn. I am sure that if the majority of these adults who are now depressed because of the earlier bullying cases were to tell someone, and I mean anyone about their problem, it would not pan out to such a large phenomenon.
My stance on bullying is rather unusual compared to the conventional response about it. I almost want to say that bullying is a good thing for a child. Before parents come at me with rolling pins and full tin lunch boxes ready to beat me, allow me to explain why I think this way. When you grow up through high school, Post secondary education, get your first few or your current jobs or even meeting friends of your friends. You will likely experience one thing in common with all of these places and people. They all contain that person or group of people that do not like you or do not treat you nicely for whatever reason. What on earth could prepare you for something as crazy as people judging you for no reason? As crazy as people mistreating you just because you have less power than they do? As crazy as having to tell your boss or some other higher authority figure about their behavior in order for them to stop? Bullying. Bullying teaches it all. Just like kids are taught to share, avoid foul language, put things back where they found them and wash their hands, kids also need to be taught from an early age that life is not fair, and if they do not want to be taken advantage of, they need to do something about it. How exactly is a school supposed to teach that? Sure, they can tell the kids that all day, but until they experience it for themselves, they will never truly understand.
For those already experiencing depression, I will not comment on that much, since I know a few people with the illness and they tell me it is a sickness that only someone who has it can really understand. However with that said, I encourage the depressed to seek out some kind of help.