I’m not one for gossip, I’m not one to publicly shame others, and I’m not one to take to social media to update the world (and by world, I mean, my small amount of followers) about my feelings, emotions, or what I’m eating for lunch today. However, last night during the airing of Teen Mom OG, my admitted guilty pleasure, it took everything in me not to join in on the conversation.
For those of you who missed the episode, spoilers lay ahead. Proceed with caution.
Teen Mom OG follows the *real life stories of four teen moms. Though they’re no longer teens, they are still moms. I’m not here to judge their parenting, their lifestyles, or their appearance. But I am here to express my concern and outright sadness for the behaviour of some; and when I say some, I mean Farrah Abraham.
Farrah made headlines when she returned mid-season after not being recast with the rest of the girl for the new season, Teen Mom OG. We’ll never know the reason MTV chose not to bring back Farrah, but it’s suspected that her previous experience in the adult film industry just didn’t jive with the image of the show. Regardless, she’s back, and evidently, she’s hasn’t changed one bit.
Over the history of the show, we’ve watched the girls grow into adults. We saw Amber struggle with, and overcome, addiction. We saw Catelynn and Tyler deal with the emotional trauma of giving their first-born daughter up for adoption. We saw Maci overcome relationship woes and single motherhood. This is where I get stuck . . . I’m not sure what we’ve seen of Farrah; actually, that’s not true. We’ve seen more than we care to see (ahem, Backdoor Teen Mom).
Nonetheless, Farrah has returned, and I’m sure MTV is glad with the decision to bring her back. Ratings must be through the roof. This week, we watched the drama unfold as Farrah confronted, and even bullied, Maci about an honest reaction to Farrah’s return. First and foremost, it was clear to everyone watching that MTV was largely responsible for this clash of characters by stirring the pot past the point of boiling and straight into overflow.
I’m not going to give you a synopsis, because I’m sure if you’re reading this, you already know what happened. Let’s just say, it reinforced everyone’s opinions of Farrah, and furthered our love for Maci. What disappoints me more than Farrah’s attack on Maci during the show was her continued attack on social media. Farrah took to Twitter during the airing of the show to continue to belittle Maci and get her final digs in; Although with Farrah, they probably aren’t final. There will be more to come. Surprised? No. Disappointed? No. Disgusted? Yes.
Regardless of Farrah’s ongoing attacks both on the show and on social media, Maci didn’t engage with the drama and proved herself an inspiration as a strong, brave and confident woman. I hope that the young and impressionable youth watching the show and following the conversation on Twitter learn something from this. I hope they learn how they should never want to present themselves in life, and how they should always want to carry themselves.
To all of the viewers, haters, fans, and commentators who took to social media to express themselves and their ongoing reactions to the drama on the show, there is a right way and a wrong way to do so. Believe me, I was very tempted to directly tweet @F1abraham to share (in a not-so-nice way) my thoughts, reactions and disappointments, but really, wouldn’t I then be doing exactly what she did? The mean comments on Twitter and all social media platforms can impact the person on the other side of the screen in ways we can never know. As easy as it is to say what’s on our mind, think about the impact it could have on the other person. As Ellen (DeGeneres) says, be kind to one another.
*real life: take this term with a grain of salt